Helping your husband to reach his full potential.

Other day I went to Deseret Book store and as I couldn't find what I was looking for, I kept on browsing what they have to offer. Don`t you know women are supposed to buy even when they don`t purchase what they want? Just kidding. I saw a little cute book with a title almost the same as the one in this post. I went through the pages to read a little, as we usually do before buying a book. The author has good ideas under this subject. But I find myself reading what I already do. I didn't purchased anything.

So, I went back to home and pondered about relationships between the couple. I don`t know if it is a newly wedded woman speaking of if it is a natural gift that I hold. But I think I treat my husband as a King. To me, he is the most important person on earth. My best friend, the easiest to love. I treat him as a King, I mean King with a capital “K”.

There are many people out there who can`t be humble to recognize how amazing is the person with whom they are married. Some homes have no place for the love to be spoken. It hurts my thoughts and much more my feelings. The Gospel is so clear and easy to understand. I know it is quite hard to be obedient, but try it at least. Sometime ago I heard this: “About your loved ones (and now I have husband and kids in my mind), we should praise them in public and correct them in secret)”. Ask me about my husband and the kids and I`ll always tell you how amazing they are. This is one of the thoughts I shared with Ernie and he agreed in doing that. Against your will, you`ll find many people to tell you what to do. Don`t give them one more reason to manage you. If you tell them how bad is this or how bad is that, they`ll make you act as they think is the best. But they don`t know. Your eternal companion is the one who should know about his owns mistakes or actions that didn't bring happiness at all. Remember the power of communicating your feelings.

I pray a lot for my husband reaches his full potential. After many years working for the same company, He has decided to move forward and experience the “waters in another ocean”. I know how responsible he is. I`m so grateful and proud of him for working hard and providing for us and the kids. I even destroyed the “buyer dispositive” I had in my brain to be financial responsible in this time of changes. I get so excited every time He comes with a new situation that happened at work and tell me everything about it. I remember him asking me: “what if I`m doing the wrong choice?” I told him that even if he mistakes he will do it trying to do the right thing, with the best of his abilities. And counseled him to not think negatively about what the future holds. Heavenly Father always provides when we are doing our best.

I kept on taking care of him and our home. I love so much our place. It is what we can afford. It is where we can be happy together. I`m so very thankful for everything that we have. I let him know that I notice his hard work and that I love what he does. I recognize my husband as the leader in our home and I enjoy working with Him in this matter, but I know that he is the one who holds the Priesthood and receive revelations to guide our family.

“Open your eyes before you get married. When you get married, close them”. I heard Decoles Granja, a former Stake President, repeat this statement over and over. He meant by this that we cannot live well together in a environment full of criticism. We`ll do some mistakes, but that is why forgiven exists. You had your chance to choose, and now that you did, please, love your choice. I love my choice.

This month, the visiting teaching message on Ensign has this quote from Joseph Smith: “The Church was never perfectly organized until the women were thus organized”. And I paraphrase: neither our husband or family. Be the change you want to see and you`ll help your husband reaching his full potential.